Dear Pregnant Mama,
I've seen many variations of you over time. I've seen the calm, I've seen the ready, and I've seen the scared.
To all those moms out there who have reservations, hesitations, apprehension, or fear surrounding their births, let me tell you this: You've got this.
Birth is sacred. Birth is amazing. Birth will transform. Birth is also trying and it is effort and toil, but it's beautiful. Your body and spirit connect, joining with your baby on the path to face-to-face meeting. You and your baby will work together, slowly at first to enter labor. Your body will climb further and further into labor and you will get closer and closer to meeting your baby. Contractions will come closer. Pain and pressure will get greater. Strength will be summoned...
But you are ok.
You can do this. You were made to do this. Your body knew how to intricately and perfectly form that sweet baby, and it knows precisely how to work with that baby to come earth-side.
Take big breaths. Relax your muscles and slow your heart. You can do this, mama. When the time comes, you are absolutely are equipped to walk the path of labor and birth... I just know it. You are going to do great. I'm so proud of you already.
A Doula Who Believes In You
PS: To help bring the calm and keep the calm, set yourself up well. Surround yourself with people who believe in you and make you feel comfortable:
Choose your provider well. A supportive OB or midwife can make so much difference. That rapport can be vital. You aren't a number. Don't be a number, be a well looked after patient.
Choose your birth location carefully. Know your hospitals or birth centers, do they support the type of birth that you want?
Choose your birth team intently: How much support do you need? How many people do you want with you through your labor? Does your mother or mother-in-law add stress or ease stress surrounding your birth? Would doula support, along with your husband, be helpful or make you feel better? Do you just need him? Think carefully. You don't want anything (or anyone) to ruffle your birth experience... if someone wants to be in your labor room, but they make you uneasy, it is ok to ask them to wait in the waiting room and allow them to come in once the baby is born. You choose who is with you through labor. This is your labor, you need to include the people who are going to benefit you and make you the most comfortable while you welcome your baby into the world.
Baby Love Blog
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